HEY LADIES..YOU CAN'T BE FINE ALL OF THE TIME!

I know that Beyoncé is a talented ass multitasker. How do I know this? Who else can sell over 1 million records without one fuckin ounce of promotion while at the same time being a mother and wife? Yeah, me either. Through the recent events captured on an elevator security camera and released to the word, we caught a quick peep of the less-than-fabulous part of her life, or maybe just the real part. Hum? In the video seen around the world, we saw her younger sister, Solange, attacking and yelling at her husband, Jay Z. A security guard has to hold back a deliriously mad Solange, while Beyoncé barely attempts to do any damn thing. 
This lil fight ended with Beyoncé leaving the event with her sister, and Jay Z taking a different car, and a whole lot of unanswered questions. But to some folk, the strangest part of the whole scene wasn't the brother-in-law/sister-in-law feud, but the fact that Beyoncé just stood her ass right there. It was the fact that a couple of minutes after the fight seen around the world, she walked out like nothing had happened.

 And in the days following the fight, Beyoncé was sittin courtside at a Brooklyn Nets game with her husband, happily in love. I’m really not a huge fan of Beyoncé, but I found it odd as hell!  In the middle of all of this shit, she just sat there and pretended that everything was OK? Now let me be perfectly clear: B never said "I'm fine," but in my opinion, her sexy ass smile did. So what the fuck is really goin on here? Was this just a random family feud that ended with hugs and kisses, or was that video a personal look into a larger issue that is cunningly being covered up for the sake of the family and their image? Hum, again! I think the family has other issues. 

In a world where celebrities and fakers sell their souls for a few dollars and Instagram "likes," Queen Beyoncé has always set herself apart by keeping her private life private! With her fame, and her music telling girls to "run the world," and her partaking in initiatives such as "Ban Bossy," she has calculated to empower women and mothers. Sayin that, at what point does keeping her life private and saving face in the midst of all of this turmoil stain her message to women? I believe it does, since it tells women everywhere that no matter how messy your life may be, you must act like you got this down…. as usual. As women and mothers, you Black women are expected to deal with issues at home, privately, and never let the world know the truth, because you fear being looked upon as weak or pitiful. 

Were you too tired to feed your children that meal of whole-wheat pasta that you promised yourself you’d make, so you bought pizza instead?

 Did you leave your iPhone on top of the car (again) because your brain ain’t workin today? 

Did you go to work and pretend you hadn't just had a fight with your man?

 Are you seeing a therapist, but lying about where you are from 7 to 8 p.m. on Tuesdays?

 Do you have no problem pretending in public that you don't care about what you weigh, when in reality every time you take a bite, you think about how you need to stop taking bites?

Why are you ladies like this? Like it or not, I don't know why you women are shocked. You all do the same thing Beyoncé did. And you do it every day. She has her image, her family and her career to maintain. You other ladies ain’t any different. 
You women are constantly surrounded by examples of "perfect" women feeding you false examples that are impossible to achieve. In reality, shit happens, and life is full of failures and lessons learned. How are you supposed to look up to a celebrity like Beyoncé who brushes these life lessons under the rug and walks away with a forced smile?

It's conflicting that all of you women shout "girl power" from the rooftops while at the same time wearin the same fake smiles. 
You know what I would've fuckin loved? If Beyoncé had gone off! Completely off! Boy, if we'd been able to hear that damn audio. If Beyoncé had cursed out Solange or Jay Z or, better yet, the press waitin outside! I would've said, "Finally!" In "Pretty Hurts," a song on her newest album, Beyoncé sings, "We try to fix something, but you can't fix what you can't see. It's the soul that needs the surgery."  Damn!! The question is: When do women drop the frontin and admit what's really wrong? OK, in the real world, that might mean talkin about your less-than-perfect marriage or a less-than-perfect career or just admitting, "No, everything ain’t fine, actually." 

When was the last time you heard that from a friend? Probably never, because as much as folks look in awe as Beyoncé pretends that everything in her life is fine, most people do the same thing every day, programmed to just keep going and keep smiling your ass off. Why do you women feel like you have to maintain perfection, especially Black women? Is it the media comparisons to keep up with? Is it the fact that you were taught to always hold it together, even when it's all falling apart? When do you Black women drop the pretense? When do you Black women stop thinking that allowing yourselves to feel is weakness? When do you stop saying "I'm fine"?